Family and Relationships

Create the Relationships You Crave


Are you fed up with dating and not finding what you want, struggling with your spouse, fighting with your siblings, caring for aging parents, co-parenting under stress, or just trying to come to agreement on important issues?

Whether you want to develop a shared vision for the future, adapt to a change in circumstances, or navigate a challenging situation, Kate has tools and processes that will help enrich your life journeys and empower you to create the relationship that works for all of you.

Sometimes families face losses such as chronic illness, death of a family member, or divorce. Family coaching can help ease such transitions. Co-parenting well after divorce responds particularly well to a coaching approach because it respects all parties equally and increases ease in the system.

You want love, intimacy, and connection in your personal relationships.

You want to be seen for who you really are and encouraged to be your best self.

You want vibrant fun with your family.

You want to know that you are working towards shared goals.

But, reality doesn’t match your dreams. There’s too much struggle and not enough fun.

Our clients are just like you.

Whether they work with Kate Arms as individuals, couples, or families, they are struggling with relationship challenges.

They want connected partnerships working towards shared goals where everyone involved is thriving.

They don’t want to feel like victims of circumstance. They want to be accepted for who they are. They want to feel comfortable just being with the important people in their lives. They want conflict to be resolved with compassion and conversation and understanding.  They want emotional intimacy. They want to feel loved and be loving. They want ease.

But the habits they have aren’t working for them.

To talk to Kate about how she can help you, book a free 60-minute Powerful Conversation.


Many of our clients struggle to lead in the relationships that matter the most to them. The fear of losing the connection gets in the way. We use the Side by Side Model of Healthy Relationships to help them create new ways of being with people that create courageous, intimate connections without sacrificing themselves.

Most of us weren’t taught how to create healthy relationships by our families and the wider culture we live in encourages us to be superficial, guarded, and isolated. Learning how to live differently is a challenge.

Kate Arms works with people to help them claim the strengths they already have and grow in their areas of weakness so they can be who they want to be in their relationships and create opportunities for intimacy and connection with the important people in their lives.

After working with Kate, people feel confident:

  • Opening up to other people,
  • Having courage in the face of vulnerability,
  • Staying in the conversation when things get tough,
  • Holding good boundaries, and
  • Inviting others to participate courageously in hard conversations

To talk to Kate about how she can help you, book a free 60-minute Powerful Conversation.


Our approach to couples and family coaching assumes that everybody is doing the best that they can and that most relationship systems can be improved without individuals working on themselves. Using relationship systems intelligence and coaching tools, Kate Arms helps you become the architects of your relationship together.

If there is active addiction, abuse, or mental illness in a relationship, then a therapist or treatment program should be part of any solution and I will be happy to help you find additional resources for your specific situation.

To talk to Kate about how she can help you, book a free 60-minute Powerful Conversation.