Are You Really Open to Love?

Love is risky. To love, we must open our hearts, and open hearts can get hurt. To be free to love, we must learn to process those hurts, so they do not become the foundation for a life lived in fear. Fear responses include: Pushing people away before […]

The Trouble with Personality Typing

I am a recovering personality test obsessive. Seriously, I have a hard time resisting all those Which Hogwarts School Would You Be Sorted Into? or Which Kind of Entrepreneur Are You? types of quizzes that look like games but are really gathering data to sell. When they first […]

The Gift of Anger

Anger is a Key to Unlock a More Meaningful Life Life feels meaningful when we are deeply engaged in purposeful action that is aligned with our personal values. When we step back from such action, we find value in our lives even if we are not experiencing the feeling of […]

Are You Sabotaging Your New Year’s Commitments?

Here we are. Two weeks into January. For many people, this is when it first becomes easy to stop paying attention to resolutions, commitments, or intentions made for the new year. The initial enthusiasm has been replaced by the awareness that change is hard. Fear and discomfort start […]

Habits: The Good News (and the Bad)

You may have heard that new habits take 28 or 30 days to form. Unfortunately, that just isn’t true. New habits start to form as soon as we start cultivating a practice, but they don’t become habitual until the neuronal pathways that drive the new behaviour are wired […]

New Year, New You? Not So Fast

New Year: New You? Not So Fast…

Did you make New Year’s Resolutions this year? Set intentions? Choose a word? Set SMART goals? Reflect on last year’s successes and setbacks? If you did, congratulations, you are participating in the social rituals that bind a community together. If you did not, congratulations, you are finding your […]

Who Are You Becoming?

Are You Getting in Your Own Way? My new clients often interpret a desire to be “true to themselves” or maintain their “integrity” in ways that prevent them from making the changes in their lives that they want to make. I help them with a few cognitive tricks […]

The Power of Gratitude

What is gratitude? Gratitude is thankfulness expressed to the source of the good. You can feel grateful, but you Do gratitude. I often translate other people’s use of “gratitude” in my head to “looking for the good” because a lot of the good I appreciate is the inevitable […]

The Four Elements of Self-Management for Success

We all have dreams of personal and professional success. The dream may not be specific about what success will look like, but we know how we want to think about ourselves or how we want to feel when we get there. The process of getting there, however, is […]

Comfort Zones

Are Comfort Zones Traps or Treasure Troves During the early months of the COVID-19 pandemic, I participated in the Great Virtual Race Across Tennessee. This 4-month, 1021 km race was a major physical stretch for me. When I began on May 1, 2020, I was a couch potato […]

Mindfulness is a Leadership Practice

Meditation and mindfulness have entered the corporate world. Progressive executive leadership programs include meditation training and offices offer meditation space or even classes to employees. Research has been done that establishes that these practices make a difference for leaders both professionally and personally. But why? What is really […]

How to Manage When You Are Missing Hugs

I have had many conversations with people about what they are looking forward to when social distancing measures are lifted. Hugs are high on the list for many of my single contacts, especially the deep squeezes that last a long time. This makes sense. Hugs are quick, simple […]